I came across an article today talking about single women and why they should set up boundaries. I found it very inspiring because I wish I knew these three simple things back when I was dating….would have made my dating life less of a struggle!
I wanted to share the article in my own words with all of you! I hope you find it just as helpful/inspiring as I did.
I’d like to first say that boundaries are NOT a way of controlling someone (although some may accuse you of this). Boundaries are NECESSARY to be able to show the man that you have respect for yourself AND that you will not put up with being treated poorly. Having boundaries is crucial in the first 3 months of dating because the man will see that you have high respect for yourself and he in return (if hes not a jackass scum) will respect you and your boundaries for the rest of your dating.
Treat Your Sexuality like a QUEEN
Think about this for a minute….. how do queen’s act? They don’t just let anyone come near them let alone have sex with them. They show class, authority, and govern their affairs wisely. They have self-control and don’t put up with men that try to bring them down or use them.
A lot of women allow sex to be far too casual. By putting up this boundary you are doing yourself a favor as well as inspiring men to grow a pair a balls, man up, and start treating women with respect.
Don’t Stay in the “Date Zone” Forever
If you are looking to be married, you need to make that clear to the man. Don’t let him drag you on for years playing with your heart making a false promise of marriage and it never happening. You are beautiful, talented, smart, kind-hearted….don’t let someone take that for granted. You have to make that decision to leave him. Obviously you aren’t going to be happy with him if he hasn’t been able to decide if he even wants to be with you forever. Why would you want to be with someone who can’t decide if they want you??? I want to be with someone that WANTS me and knows that right off the bat. I won’t put up with the “Date Zone” and neither should you. If it’s been a year and a half and he hasn’t even MENTIONED marriage or talked about a future with you….its time to move on to someone who will love you and WANT you to be there everyday with them.
What You Give is What You Will Get in Return
If you think that all guys want is to see your boobs and ass, then you’re always going to get the scum ass losers that can’t treat an animal decently let alone a woman decently. You need to remember that your CHARACTER (not your body assets) are what make you beautiful and appealing to men. It’s what’s on the inside, not the outside. Your actions, your words, and your appearance should all be in line with WHO you truly are. If you’re not trying to be a hooker, then stop dressing like one! Are you constantly swearing? Because its definitely NOT appealing to high class men. Are you selfish? Or do you try to help strangers in need or your community neighbors that are in need?
Believe it or not, THESE inward appearances are what make you appealing to men that WANT to be married. So, if you’re looking for something long-term, look at how you act, think, say, and what you’re wearing around men. Don’t try too hard. Just be YOUR HONEST self and let your INWARD beauty shine OUTWARDS!
What Boundaries are YOU going to set for yourself?? Tell me in the comments below.